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3 Ways to Piss Your Boss Off

In their career, nearly everyone answers to someone.   Many things are changeable in the working world, but having a boss isn’t one of them.  If you must have a boss, it is recommended that you don’t piss them off.

Though, it’s easier said than done. From the first time you clock in to your last day of work, someone, somewhere has oversight of you.

Looking at a traditional employee-manager relationship, what are some common mistakes that prevent you from getting along with your boss?

Below are three common habits to avoid.

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1. Do Someone Else’s Job.  We hear and see a lot of words about going the extra mile, being part of a team, capitalizing on our strengths, etc.

But in practice, if you frequently come to your boss with “here’s how I would do this better,” you risk appearing puffed up or back-stabbing.

You also risk your boss wondering how much time and thought you’re putting into your own actual job.

  • If you are the social media manager, read the room before taking it upon yourself to write a better draft of an internal communication you think your MarComm colleague could’ve done better.
  • If your management peer is hiring for a role that will not report to you, it may be best to refrain from pushing your own candidate into the mix if signals from HR say “back off.”

If your boss asks you to assist on a project, contribute an idea or piece of expertise, or support a struggling co-worker, great. If you volunteer such things unasked and your boss takes you up on it, even better.

But don’t fall into the trap of appearing to constantly step on others’ toes or into their territory. It may leave your boss wondering about your career motivations.

Also, it will have them question your time management skills.

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2. Be Defensive Towards Feedback Instead of Receptive.  If you’ve ever had a restaurant kitchen mess up your order, you may know the itching irritation of an excuse rather than a straightforward, “I’ll get that taken care of.” Just as for an overdone steak, so for your relationship with your boss.

Whether your boss is bringing an oversight to your attention, or asking you to work on a difficult skill, one of the best habits you can learn is to hear them out.

Take in the information in an open-minded manner.  Regardless of whether you’re offended, don’t fight fire with fire.

In most cases, pushing back to justifying yourself is ineffective for your long-term career success.

Why?  Doing so challenges authority and pisses off any boss.

This is not to say be a doormat or yes your boss to death. On the contrary: deciding when and how to justify yourself is one of the main hallmarks of assertive communication at work.

Try to assume positive intent.  When your boss mentions an area of work improvement, you put yourself in a stronger place when you appear receptive to the feedback rather than defensive.

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3. Resist Change at Work.  Reliability is good. Complacency is bad. If you’re hired because you were the job candidate with the strongest consultative sales track record, you don’t suddenly change your entire sales style on day one of the job. If it ain’t broke…

But staying stuck in one way of doing something, or being resistant to a new way your team is taught to handle something (client communications, perhaps) wins you no friends.

When your boss implements a change, the surest way to piss them off is to resist change.  That includes giving it a half-hearted stab, then throwing your hands in the air in frustration.

Learn to change or your career will suffer from a pissed off boss.  The ability to learn and change has been an asset since the first time an ancient human ancestor decided to try coming down out of the trees.

You don’t want to be the one on your team who’s stuck in the high branches because it seems to daunting to find a way down.  You’ll just get left behind.

This is not an apology or an excuse of an ineffective, unprofessional boss. If your boss aggressively attacks you as a person, no amount of receptiveness on your end is going to make that right.

If your boss constantly saddles you with others’ work to the point that you can’t do your job, the problem isn’t you.

But in a context of professional behavior and positive intentions, you will always do yourself a favor by cutting down on the above-three tendencies, if you have them. Your boss, and your work quality, will thank you.

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Resources to Help Kick-Off a Better Career in 2018

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As a job seeker, learning is crucial to your career success.  The following resources are some of the most relevant articles on careers, success, salary negotiation, recruiting and interviewing.

Happy job hunting!

Fall in Employment Rate Spells end of UK Jobs Boom – Britain’s long jobs boom appears to have come to an end after official figures showed the number of people in work fell by 56,000 in the three months ending in October.

The Office for National Statistics said an upswing that began in 2012, and persisted for a year after the vote to leave the EU, had petered out.  While the solid economic growth in late 2016 meant a total of 325,000 net jobs had been created in the year to October, the latest three months saw a 56,000 drop in employment  see full article. see full article.

Microsoft is Taking a Stand on an Employment Practice that can Silence Victims of Sexual Harassment – The company is removing language found in some of its employees’ contracts that barred them from filing suit over workplace sexual harassment claims. Previously, employees subject to the provisions would have had to go to arbitration to resolve such claims, a private process that can hide the identities of repeated perpetrators see full article. see full article

5 Ways You Can Stand Out from the Crowd at a Career Fair – Career fairs are held as a way to attract lots of applicants to help fill open positions, but they can often feel like a cattle call.  Though it may seem like you’re not getting enough meaningful time with potential employers to make a positive impression, there are ways to rise above the crowd.  The following tips will help you stand out from the huge crowds – in a positive way – and increase your chances of landing a job:
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3 Salary Negotiation Tactics to Help You Make More Money – In this video, the CEO of KAS Placement helps job seekers negotiate a better compensation package see full video. see full article

5 Ways To Think Positively And Achieve Career Success – To advocate and create opportunities for yourself, you must think positively. What positions you for success is a “seize the day” mentality. Here are five ways to help you be optimistic and create career success for you in the new year:

  1. Think about the possibility, not the probability.  In the working world, many decisions are driven by the likelihood of success. Probability drives the companies venture capitalists will invest in, what compounds pharmaceutical companies will spend research and development money on and what restaurants will put on their menus. Decisions based on probability (alone) box you in see full article. see full article

If You Want to Own 2018, Follow This Career Advice –  There’s no shortage of career advice on the Internet. But who has time to indulge in it when we’re already exerting every last ounce of strength just to survive the day at hand? (Without panicking or falling asleep mid-meeting, that is.)

That’s why we have December. New Year’s resolutions aside, the time off before 2018 offers us the precious opportunity to to breathe and reset (and drink and be merry) see full article.  see full article

The Saturday Jobs That Led to a Career – For many young people a part-time job is a good way to earn some extra money and gain new skills.  However, figures show the number of children fitting a job around school has fallen by a fifth in the past five years.  We spoke to three people whose Saturday jobs opened the door to a career see full article.  see full article

How to Highlight Job Skills on a Resume – Your resume is not about you. Sure, it has your name at the top and it traces your career progression. But to serve its true purpose – securing you a great job – it can’t be a mere autobiography.

Instead, experts say, your resume should be a mirror, one designed to reflect the ideal candidate for the open position you seek see full article. see full article

6 Career-Ending Mistakes You Should Never Make on the Job – There’s more than enough advice out there about what you should do when you land a job and want to jumpstart a successful career: Show up on time, do what you say you’ll do, and be curious (among other great suggestions).

But have you ever wondered if there was a list of things you definitely should not do?  

As it turns out, your HR manager has a list like that! And to get some insight on what’s likely on that list, we connected with Kate Kastenbaum, seasoned HR Director at Certain, Inc see full article.  see full article

After-school Job Turns into Successful Career – Ted Klingele, 54, has owned Deep Sea Deli and Midstate Seafood for more than two decades. He started working at the deli in 1980 while in high school when his father, Jerry Klingele, was manager. In 1983, his father purchased the deli and then in 1996 sold it to his son see full article.  see full article

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